blog 1 - My story
19/02/25
Two years ago I decided I no longer wanted to live in a cycle of negative thinking, constant anxiety and self-doubt. I never imagined I would be where I am now, helping others also change their mindset
Trigger Warning: This blog discusses baby loss and miscarriage.
Hey lovely souls,
Welcome! I’m so glad you’re here. This is the first of what I hope will be many blogs where I share my journey, insights, and lessons on mindset, resilience, and personal growth.
Today, I want to start by sharing my story—one that shaped me in ways I never expected.
I grew up as a naturally positive and happy person. People would often comment on how I was always smiling, how I had this glow about me, and how my outlook on life was full of light and optimism. (Naturally I still had some down days). But in April 2010, that all changed.
I was 16 weeks pregnant with my first baby when, unexpectedly and shockingly, my world shattered. I remember that moment in the scan room so vividly—the uneasy silence, the shift in atmosphere, the look on the sonographer’s face. Before a single word was spoken, I just knew. And then, those words came: "I'm sorry, there is no heartbeat."
That sentence, that moment—it will never leave me. Even now, I find it hard to put into words how it felt. But what I can say is that it was the beginning of a darkness I had never known before.
I won’t go into all the details, but this happened to me not once, but four times. Each loss was as painful as the last. Each one chipped away at the person I used to be.
Today, I am blessed with two beautiful children, and I am grateful for them every single day. But the years that followed my miscarriages were the hardest, darkest years of my life. They say baby loss is a silent grief, and that was exactly what it was for me. I didn’t talk about my pain. I didn’t seek support. Instead, I buried it deep inside, and it slowly consumed me.
I couldn’t see the light. I didn’t deal with the trauma well—I let it eat away at me. I wasn’t kind to myself. My inner voice was harsh, full of blame and negativity. I couldn’t see the good things around me because, in my mind, there were no good things. There was no practicing or embracing gratitude. The darkness felt endless and I felt hopeless.
And yet, on the outside, I hid it well. No one knew the anguish, the battle that was raging inside of me. I smiled when I needed to. I carried on with life. But inside, I was completely lost. I remember thinking I would never feel like myself again, that I had lost my ability to genuinely smile or laugh. The light had dimmed, and I couldn’t see or even imagine a way out.
Even with two beautiful children in my life, the sadness, grief, and dark days didn’t just disappear. I felt immense love for them, yet at the same time, I was carrying so much pain that I couldn’t shake. It was a constant battle—one that I kept hidden. Looking back, I realise that healing doesn’t mean the hard moments vanish overnight. It means learning how to carry them differently, to find light even when the darkness lingers
Then came a day in 2022. I can’t remember exactly what triggered it, but I had a thought that changed everything: This is enough. I cannot live my life like this anymore. I was unhappy all the time. It was affecting every part of my life—my relationships, my confidence, my ability to enjoy even the smallest moments. Something had to change.
I had started following mindset coaches on social media, and slowly, I began to feel small glimpses of inspiration. Maybe, just maybe, I didn’t have to live my life this way. Maybe there was another way to see things. That hope, as small as it was, was enough to push me to take action.
I found myself a mindset coach and after just a few sessions, I felt a shift—a shift in my energy, my thoughts, my entire outlook. It was as if a fog had started to lift. And that was the beginning of my journey to transforming my mindset.
I started practicing gratitude. At first, it felt unnatural, almost forced, but over time, I realised that the more I focused on what I had rather than what I had lost, the lighter I felt. But the real game-changer? Reframing my thoughts. That one shift—choosing to see things differently—completely changed my life. What you say to yourself truly matters. The words you repeat in your mind shape the way you experience life. And for so long, I had been feeding my mind thoughts that kept me stuck in pain.
Through this journey, I’ve come to believe that everything happens for a reason. A reason we may not understand at the time—or even for a long while after—but eventually, we see the lesson it has brought us. Even the darkest moments have something to teach us.
It wasn’t easy. There were days when I still struggled, when I questioned whether I could ever fully heal. But I found purpose in my pain. I realised that if I could come out the other side stronger, more resilient, and with a deeper understanding of life and myself, then maybe I could help others do the same.
After pain comes purpose. And that’s exactly what I found.
So here I am now—a qualified mindset coach with a deep need to help others. I know what it’s like to feel lost in the darkness, to believe that things will never get better. But I also know that change is possible. Healing is possible. And if I can help even one person live a happier, more content life, then every challenge, every struggle, and every lesson I’ve learned will have been worth it.
My journey has shown me that we are not defined by our past or by our pain. We have the power to change the way we think, and when we do that, we change the way we experience life. And that is exactly why I do what I do—to help others see that there is always a way forward, no matter how impossible it might seem right now.
Every challenge you face is shaping you into the incredible person you are meant to be. No matter how impossible things may seem right now, know that growth is happening—even in the struggle.
That’s why I have my 12-week transformation coaching program—to help others break free from the thoughts and beliefs that are keeping them stuck. This isn’t just about feeling better for a short while; it’s about giving you the tools to create lasting change in your mindset, confidence, and overall happiness. The tools you learn will stay with you for life, long after our time working together.
If you’re ready to start making a change, to shift your mindset, and to finally step into a happier, more fulfilled version of yourself—then I’d love to support you. I know it feels hard right now, but imagine yourself after the transformation—lighter, more in control, seeing life through a completely different lens.
You don’t have to do this alone. If you’re ready, I’m here to help
26/02/25
The Power of Positive Thinking: Creating a Mindset That Supports You
Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of negative thinking? I know I have. When I started working on my mindset, it wasn’t because I was naturally positive—it was because I was tired of being stuck in my own thoughts, weighed down by negativity. I knew there had to be another way, a better way to live.
Now I understand you can’t be positive all the time. We can’ control everything that happens to us, challenges will always come and what I’ve learned is that shifting your mindset takes time and effort. It’s not about ignoring the bad days—it’s about knowing that they don’t last forever. The sun always rises the next day, and so do you. You live most of your life inside your own head, so why not make it a nice place to be?
If you’re ready to start shifting your mindset, here are five ways to embrace positive thinking:
1. Journal: Feel to Heal
Many of us suppress our emotions, hoping they’ll disappear, but emotions don’t just go away—they stay stuck unless we process them. Journaling is a powerful way to release and understand what you’re feeling. Ask yourself: What emotions am I suppressing? Write them down, acknowledge them, and let them out. Clarity comes when you give yourself permission to feel.
2. Become Aware of Negative Thoughts
We all have negative thoughts, but the key is learning to catch them before they spiral. When you notice a negative thought, ask yourself: Is this absolutely true? Most of the time, our minds exaggerate problems. Instead of thinking, “I’m not good enough,” try reframing it to “I am learning and growing every day.” The more you practice this, the easier it becomes.
3. Surround Yourself with Positivity
Your environment influences your mindset more than you realise. One of the things I did at the beginning and I still do now is listen to uplifting music and podcasts, I find it really helps shift my mindset. Take a look at what you consume daily—books, podcasts, social media, and even the people around you. Are they uplifting or draining? Choose to fill your world with voices that encourage and inspire you. Spend time with people who bring out the best in you and engage with content that fuels your growth. Remember negativity breeds negativity.
4. Practice Gratitude Daily
Focusing on what’s good in your life shifts your mindset from lack to abundance. You could start small—each morning, write down three things you’re grateful for. It could be as simple as a warm cup of tea, a kind word from a friend, or the fresh air outside. Over time, gratitude rewires your brain to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. Another tip is at the end of the night, reflect back on the day and think ‘what was one good thing that happened today?’
5. Be Patient with Yourself
Changing your mindset is a journey, not a switch you flip overnight. There will be setbacks, but don’t be discouraged. Just as you wouldn’t expect to master a new skill in a day, reshaping your thoughts takes time. Be gentle with yourself, and remember—progress is still progress, no matter how small. Every step forward no matter how small is a step in the right direction.
Know that you won’t wake up tomorrow and suddenly be the most positive person in the world, and that’s okay. But by taking small, intentional steps, you can create a mindset that supports you rather than holds you back. On the bad days, remind yourself that good days are ahead. Keep going, keep growing, and make your mind a place where you truly love to be.